Just because there's a law against it doesn't make it a crime.

It's a wide held belief that when a crime is reported to the police, that report will be taken seriously by investigators acting in a professional manner. This is not what happened to me. I begin my story with this experience (one that happened a mere few weeks ago) because it is vital that I get this story out to other victims. It's a story that will be hard for some others to believe. We want to believe that women's rights have come a long way since the suffragettes. We want to believe that women have the right to be listened to and not ushered back into the kitchen when one dares speak against a man. Unfortunately there are many men who haven't made it to the 21st century yet. Two of them are currently working for Police Scotland. I made a report online about some domestic violence offences. The police then made an appointment for an in person interview at a local police station. I had a bad feeling the moment I saw the two officers who were there to speak to me. I didn't realise it until later but neither one of them wrote anything down the entire time I talked to them. They weren't even holding a pen, ready to start writing. They had made up their minds before they even met me: men must be believed at all costs. Women can't be trusted. They are male hating witches, trying to turn all men into incels. We must all work together to get them back in the kitchen, ready to give us 20 babies. 

They started the interview asking me what I was here for today. What was going on? I started to give them a brief backstory, but I was interrupted by cop 1 (he interrupted me several times). He rolled his eyes and angerly said "we know what happened before. Why are you here now?". I am already being treated like a child. They also have no interest in what I have to say. I am shaken but I try to stay strong. I try to explain that my abuser keeps coming into my house without my permission or sometimes knowledge. He will often come into my house to take something. Other times he just moves stuff around. He shows up whenever he wants. He comes to my house when my children are there and cooks their meals. I am not allowed to cook their meals. He has told the kids that I am not capable of caring for them so he has to be around to do it. I explain that he has stolen my passport twice. I know exactly when it went missing both times. No one else had access to it. This was when I was accused of a crime myself. Cop #2 pipes up angerly, "how did you get another passport if you didn't report your first passport stolen?". I told him I applied for a new one and got it...duh (I didn't actually say "duh") 🤔 This is when he gets really angry "well that's a crime. You are a criminal!" Me: "Well no one informed me of that when I moved here. Shouldn't the embassy have told me that when I told them my last passport was stolen?" Cop #2 now realises he done fucked up. This law he cited is only for British passports. My passports that were stolen were not British passports. Weirdly he had nothing more to say. 

I go on to tell tweedledee and tweedledum that my ex has been stalking me online and in person. At this point Cop 1 (dee) tells me that none of the stuff I mentioned so far is a crime. "What can I do for you? None of this is a crime. It sounds to me like your ex is trying to help you and you should be appreciative. You're doing nothing to help yourself, why would we or anyone else help you". By this time I am in hysterical tears, hyperventilating with red puffy eyes. This was what they wanted. They wanted the hysterical female, proving them right. Women need men to keep them in line. Otherwise shit like this happens. She never should have left him. She has gone batshit on her own. She thinks the world is out to get her and someone is always watching. Bring back institutionalising women who remain single. Dee and Dum had their fun with me and they were done mocking me and rolling their eyes at me. They ushered me out of the police station with smiles on their faces, as I was still wimpering with tears. I could feel them giving each other a high five as I walked away. It was the most degrading, demoralising, misogynistic, dehumanising experience of my life. I would rather go back to my ex and give up my freedom again than ever have to face another pig in a uniform. Police are not here to help us. They are not on our side. I will never contact the police for anything ever again. 

And if all that isn't enough, I had said to dee and dum that I didn't want them talking to my ex about this stuff. I was in danger if they get him mad. I found out they did call him. I am afraid of what he will do now. This is all I think about. I don't understand why they would contact my ex if there were no crimes committed and I was just "wasting police time". I suspect they quite enjoyed the idea of putting me in danger and that was a strong motivator. 

So that's part one of my story. I still have many tales to tell and I hope you'll stay with me as I share more of my experiences. Coercive control may be a crime in Scotland but no one cares to enforce that crime. Men are (statistically) the ones benefitting from coercive control and we live in a strong patriarchy. Men will never be held accountable. Men will never be punished. Men will continue to protect each other from all of us baby killing satanist women.